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\n<\/a>\"alice<\/a>Thank you for making The Sex Girl #1 Bestseller Fiction Paperback<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

at Book Soup.<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

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The Sex Girl is a work of fiction, but the feelings in it are at once personal and \u2013 hopefully \u2013 universal. Since I was kid I felt voiceless, so by writing this story I took my voice back and \u2013 at the same time \u2013 I tried to give voice to all those women that I met along the way, women that, like me, have struggled, but that haven\u2019t been blessed with a way out, recovery, tools to overcome the obstacles. <\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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At Book Soup, on a beautiful Saturday afternoon, the 13 of June, I presented my debut novel \u2013 The Sex Girl.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was nervous, scared that the audience wouldn\u2019t show up, but at the same time excited for the event \u2013 an important one in the life of an author. So I wore a pretty dress and prepared for the occasion the best I could. In my meditation I asked for honesty, and for the ability to share a message.<\/span><\/p>\n

At 4:15 pm I was on stage. People came, many of them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Before reading two sections from the novel I decided to briefly share with them something about my relationship with the story written in those 280 pages I held in my hands \u2013 because I have changed a lot from the Alice who wrote it, 5 years ago. So this is what I said, if you missed the event:<\/span><\/p>\n

***<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Lately I have been through a severe depression, one that brought me to be suicidal.<\/span><\/p>\n

I barely went out and lay in the darkness of my bedroom for days, neither showering nor eating, only watching re-runs of Keeping Up With the Kardashians<\/em> for 72 hours in a row \u2013 which says it all.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"alice<\/a>I considered and planned every possible way to die and felt guilty for it, because this past year has been the most beautiful of my life. I couldn’t see the cause of my pain, I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t willing to smile, see the beauty, or to appreciate the ducks that had come to swim in our pool. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, in the past twelve months I fell in love, I toured the United States with the man who would become my husband, and this five-year long project, my first novel, got published.<\/span><\/p>\n

So to go back to my depression, together with a big bottle of Prozac my therapist gave me some homework and asked me to read the book Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion,<\/em> and an essay.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the essay I learned about Seattle-based author <\/span>Jane Lotter<\/b> who, shortly before her 2013 death, left a self-written obituary with a moving advice for her family:<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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“May you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path.”<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\u00a0<\/span>My novel has encountered endless obstacles, from the very first day to the very last.<\/span><\/p>\n

But the truth is that I choose to see everything as an obstacle in my life, for instance I wrote this book in a language that is not my native one, and \"image5-2\"<\/a>instead of seeing the process as a fascinating one, a new way of learning about the English language and the American culture, I saw it as a burden that slowed me down; I felt stupid. And that’s just one example. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking back, to be honest, I aimed for the top of the mountain to such an extent that I missed the journey.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to make the same mistake again. We all encounter obstacles, and if we don\u2019t make them part of our path the joke\u2019s on us. Really.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thank you for coming to Book Soup. Thank you for supporting me.<\/span><\/p>\n

with love,<\/span><\/p>\n

Alice<\/span><\/p>\n

***<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

The Sex Girl is currently for sale at Book Soup and will soon be available in every bookstore. Tell your friends, say it out loud on Twitter or Facebook.\u00a0<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Come back next week for a new episode of Coffee with Alice: Jeff Garlin<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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